confirmed-terfs

confirmed-terfs:

freedom14movement:

confirmed-terfs:

If my child identifies as transgender I would get them the right clothes and pronouns and everything right away

If my child identifies as transracial I would get them skin bleaching cream/relaxer (or to a tanning booth) asap

If my child identifies as transabled I would help them cut off whatever limb was invalidating their identity

your child’s identity is the most important thing in the world to them. Show you care by helping them live their dream

This bitch literally just said they’d cut off their fucking child’s limbs.

You should have your child taken from you

excuse me but the real child abuse is invalidating your child by refusing to get them medical care for their identity. I hope transblr backs me up on this because I see so many abusive parents refusing to get their kids hormone therapy or puberty blockers. They won’t even use the correct pronouns and you’re attacking me? Just because my definition of “trans” is more expansive doesn’t make me a monster. I don’t have a child yet but if I do I will be the best parent imo

*Someone* appears to be satire-impaired.

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Parents, keep listening to your gut—not the gender therapist 4thwavenow.com

rad-and-pregnant:

shalbark:

girlpda:

celtyradfem:

australian-red-cedar:

themutantgene:

rad-and-pregnant:

The majority of the time trans is a phase for children, unless of course you set your child up for permanent medical changes which make it impossible to easily desist from trans identity. Anyone who has followed 4thwavenow’s blog has seen other commenters have similar stories about their children and themselves. 4thwavenow’s daughter has desisted now and 4thwavenow discusses it in this wonderfully written article. In online circles like tumblr an “ex trans” person is not believed to exist, or is extremely rare, or told that its okay to detransition but to stop talking about it in the context of transactivism. Statistically, desisting from trans identity should be the main conversation when discussing if transition is appropriate for minors. 

MOST IMPORTANT READ. This is the very thing I have been panicking about. Gender is reinforced yet again

i remember being a teenager. i truly believed everything i felt and thought about myself was rock solid and immutable, that the things i loved then would be the things i loved forever, that nobody understood i was the exception to “you’ll grow out of it”. we don’t let teens get tattoos - we should tread very carefully when it comes to every other permanent change.

Transitioning teenagers is a terrible idea.

have you ever considered that your trans children maybe perhaps stoped id'ing as trans because yall hate trans people

i almost cried reading this because this is what i had to do when my father wasnt the one looking after me… you ever consider that the reason your child stops acting like who they really are is because of the way yall treat them? the reason they just “move on” is because you arent supporting them and they feel horrible? just wondering why you hate trans people so much?

1.  You’re proving the point of the post quite well, which is that no matter what data is available to prove that it is usually a phase online trans circles will reject it. You seem to reject the idea that anyone could think they are trans, and then think that they aren’t. If the truth of the matter is that most of the time transition would harm rather than help then people deserve to know and should adjust their treatment protocols accordingly. That’s the thing about science, its true regardless of how anyone feels about it. I know that you aren’t willng to even look at evidence that challenges your world view because you posted too soon after to have actually read it. which leads me to:


2. If you had you would see that the data about desisting is from studies of trans children whose parents sought help for them. That is not generally the trajectory for hateful, abusive parents. The majority on 4thwavenow also sought help and were disheartened with the lack of data supporting the medical transition approach. Who are you to say that these parents don’t care about their children, “hate” them, when they are doing due diligence in permanent medical decision making under the scrutiny of virtually everyone else they encounter? Is the “loving” response to give your kids whatever they want regardless of the long term consequences? Even if it leaves them sterile?

3. Despite having no proof that these parents are hateful of trans people in general you’ve asserted that having a transphobic parent would cause desistence in trans identity, even though the data cited is a long term follow up (meaning that adults that can make their own decisions continued to ID as not being trans). In fact, most people who thought they were trans as minors ID as lesbian, gay, or bisexual adults who are not trans. Is there no over lap between transphobia and homophobia among parents? Why would a majority desist in being trans but persist in being homosexual or bisexual? Interestingly, homophobic parents do not decrease the existence of homosexuality at all. Every attempt at trying to prove that parents can cause or inhibit homosexuality has fallen flat on its face, despite masive effort to do so on the part of religious organizations. What compelling reason would there be for parental disapproval to cause a majority desistence in gender identity but not sexual orientation?

Beautifully stated. Thank you. Logic is an endangered species amongst trans activists.

INTERVIEW: Feminist Author Tells Breitbart Transgender Lobby Targets Livelihoods, Gov CREATING Trans Children breitbart.com

Isn’t it interesting that one of the most vociferously conservative publications in existence is giving a platform to feminist criticism of transgenderism? You won’t see this in the Guardian, Independent–or even the “Daily Fail.”

Prof. Jeffreys spoke of the use of “safe spaces” in university, whereby so-called “transphobia” — any criticism of post-Marxist gender theory — has been completely shut down. The trans lobby first controlled debate in academia, then the media, and now they are orchestrating government policy, she added.

The European Court of Human Rights now mandates certain adherences to transgender ideology as a condition of membership. A similar inquiry in Sweden this year recommended children be allowed surgery without parental consent.


Check out this article. Anything to add? Anything to dispute?

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rejecting-the-gender-cult:

raddestwitch:

What the actual fuck. The child basically said that they don’t want to be a girl because girls are treated fucking bad. Idk how a child saying she doesn’t like being a girl suddenly = trans. The child has experienced trauma related to sexual abuse! This is a reaction to abuse.

Like, even when I was a libfem I wouldn’t be like “Oh, here are some videos for parents of trans children. Congratulations.”

I would have recommended they take the child to therapy for their trauma. I would have recommended medical help, not information for parents with trans children.

I recognize dysphoria is a real thing, but this doesn’t appear that way to me. People are so quick to ignore the abuse this child went through, and jump conclusions. What the actual fuck.

Plus, the mother didn’t even say the word “trans” - she said non-binary. geek&misandry is fucking jumping the gun with that shit.

Tagging: @rad-femmes @rejecting-the-gender-cult @witwitch @terfzilla @evilterf and anyone else for thoughts. This has really upset me. I can’t believe this mother reached out for help and was given nothing of any use other than “your child is trans” from g&m and her followers.

@geekandmisandry, What in the hell are you thinking? What is the meaning of this? This parent is clearly trying to deal with a young girl who is responding to trauma (either personal trauma or the danger of impending trauma, probably both lbr) and has become alienated from her own body, from other girls and women, and from her own womanhood as a result. Why are you encouraging that? Do you see that as a healthy, whole, reality-based, nurturing response to dealing with misogyny? What kind of advice is this to vulnerable, sensitive young women and their families?? I urge you to reconsider giving this kind of advice. I urge you to think very hard of the very real ramifications of affirming this kind of thing.

I want to make a commercial advertising this kind of thought process. It would go something like this: 

Feel alienated from your own body?
From other women?
From your social conditioning?
From society at large?
Think you’re “not like other girls”?
Think you’re deeply, forever different from the women you see around you, on some fundamental level that they’ll never, ever get? 
Do you sometimes feel so apart from them that you hate them a little bit?
Do you hate the part of yourself that is like them, and you want to run from it screaming, but you don’t even really know why, and nobody around you knows how the fuck to identify let alone deal with girls and women’s issues because lol who cares about females?
Have you, like so many women, turned your anger and fear about society’s overwhelming misogyny on yourself instead? 
Have you grown up feeling like something is inherently, deeply, irrevocably wrong with you?
Surprise, you have been deeply traumatized like so many women have and need to come to terms with your place in the world and integrate your narrative of yourself and your relationship with your body and the world around you and go through a long, difficult healing process ….

….or, you know, fuck all that! You’re probably just trans!
It’s the new sensation that’s sweeping the nation! Ask your doctor now!
Nobody ever gave you the tools to demand respect and physical boundaries?
Now you’ll discover a whole new world of insisting on esoteric terminology and redefining your very own physical container. 
Be less Like Other Girls™ than ever before. 
Be more like a Real Human Being instead! (…You know, a man, or “non-binary”, or whatever. Just…anything but a woman. Ugh. Women. Womanhood. What even is that, right????) 
You’ll have the vocabulary to demand utter control.
You’ll have more support than you’ve ever had before from a community that will welcome you, coddle you, draw lines in the sand for you, and teach you who is an insider and who is an outsider.
They’ll do the thinking for you.
You’ll be able to ritualize your self-care in a clear, defined way that you may have never had before- therapist and doctor’s appointments, specialized garments, a twice-monthly shot, the list goes on!
You’ll be able to make demands from doctors in ways you never could!
You’ll have clear goals for your life. You’ll be able to start over. New haircut, new wardrobe, new name, new empowered language, new goals, new friends!
And everything will be better…..once you get HRT!
Everything will sort itself out….one you have top surgery!
Everything will be better….as the markers of your female-ness (which are the same as “femininity” right? It’s one and the same, right?) melt away! (But never actually leave, ever, no matter what you do. But nevermind that.)
Everything will be better. Everything will sort itself out. Don’t confront or examine anything. This explains everything. It’s the center of the universe now. 

WARNING:
Results may vary.Participants may be digging themselves into a hole.
Nothing will actually change on a fundamental level.
All of this is conditional.
Question nothing.
You’re still “dfab” so keep your mouth shut.
The reality of your entire life=irrelevant.
The second you disidentified with womanhood, you somehow magically became Privileged.
Are you a teenaged lesbian who is seen and treated by society as female?
Doesn’t matter: You now somehow have privilege over a late-transitioning straight autogynephile in his 50′s with a failed marriage and two children, so “take a seat” as they say.
Also, you should be open to dating him, or something???

After insisting on your identity and fighting so hard, it will take tremendous strength to admit to yourself, let alone others, that you were wrong. You will receive ZERO support from your “loving” community.

(Fine print:
Your identity will not save you from misogyny. 
Living a lie wont save you from this world. 
Lying to yourself wont save you from yourself. 
Making up a new name and pretending you’re not like those other girls, you’re not anything like any girl at all, will not save you.
Only the truth will set you free.
You can be any kind of woman you want and need to be.
You can be a new kind of woman.
We are waiting for you.)

Fuck, I’m so tired. I’m so tired.

The horrific thing is that the entire society–the media, the medical profession, trans activists–are essentially giving the exact same misguided “advice” to confused parents. This brainwashing must end. Our girls deserve to be supported in becoming whole, not splintering into a million fragments with the encouragement of Tumblr armchair psychologists.

redressalert trans parenting how not to parent the extermination of females

Anonymous asked:

So when someone has a comorbid eating disorder and major depression/with a clinically depressed state, the depression is supposed to be treated first even though eating disorders can kill you. I wonder why dysphoria and not depression is treated first? (because depression is a symptom of dysphoria but can also be comorbid)... It seems like it's an agenda based choice rather then a medical one.

And it’s getting to the point where therapists are instructed NOT to deal first with the underlying or pre-existing depression or other issues in someone who claims a transgender identity. The American Psychological Association recently released guidelines (written by a task force composed largely of transgender adults) which conflate “gender nonconformity” with having a trans identity; they actually coin a new acronym TGNC, and I could find no real support for helping kids who don’t fit stereotypes to feel comfortable in their own bodies.  The guidelines strongly discourage clinicians from attributing any causality link for gender dysphoria to underlying mental health issues.  It appears to only be acceptable to claim causality in the opposite direction–that depression, anxiety, and so forth are caused by GD.

http://www.apa.org/practice/guidelines/transgender.pdf

There are certainly some clinicians who don’t go along with all of this, but increasingly, they feel unable to openly buck  the trend. See this account from a clinician who describes in detail her concerns and her reasons for resigning from a practice that served adolescents because she felt railroaded into diagnosing teens as trans, no questions asked. She says that her clinical judgment was no longer valued in this one area of practice.

http://4thwavenow.com/2015/08/22/exiles-in-their-own-flesh-a-psychotherapist-speaks/

Anonymous asked:

Just read about the Oregon law allowing surgery at 15 without parental permission. What is going on? Who will be deciding that the surgery is required? Doesn't anyone believe that kids might need more gate-keeping than 40 year olds?

TransActive, a child-transition-pushing organization in Portland, Oregon, lobbied hard for that change. They believe these kids have the cognitive wherewithal to make these decisions. They celebrate parents being cut out of the process. The director of that organization believes that 2-year-olds have innate gender identity. And they want to help other states lower the age of medical consent, as it is in Oregon. The general public needs to understand where this is all heading. See more here:

http://4thwavenow.com/2015/08/19/coming-soon-to-a-state-near-you-double-mastectomy-for-your-15-year-old-without-parental-consent/

Anonymous asked:

The cluster of trans suicides in San Diego are so awful. The teens had parents who were supporting their transition, so it's not that. Maybe it's suicide contagion from glamorizing suicide. Maybe they had depression and needed help for it, not just transition.

The fact that their parents and other adults were supportive and helping them along the road to transition should have made them feel better, if transition were the answer to the horrible depression and self harm these kids were obviously experiencing. Being “gender nonconforming” in this day and age is also really stressful. Gay and lesbian kids who aren’t interested in transition are also bullied and some have parents who are not supportive of them stepping outside gender stereotypes.

Suicide contagion is a real, known phenomenon. The press should not be advertising these suicides the way it has been. The fact that several of these kids have stepped into heavy traffic as a way to die also indicates a “copycat” aspect. And FOUR of them in the same city? Someone should be looking into the reasons for this cluster.

I have also long felt that some of the trans-identified kids who are socially transitioning, with an eye towards medical transition, could be made even more depressed when they think their only option is painful, lifelong medical treatments. That they can’t be accepted as the unique and unusual people they are, without having to constantly worry about how they are perceived by others. We are not looking at the full picture with these kids. The assumption that assuming a trans identity is somehow the solution to this terrible problem of teen suicidality is so overly simplified. And the pressure so many kids feel now to claim a certain identity vs. just being themselves with no “identity” required has to add to the despair.

Anonymous asked:

The real way to reduce the rate of suicide among transgender teens: 1. Stop telling people that they have to hurry up and transition or they'll regret it for the rest of their life. They can transition later and have a happy life. 2. Stop glamorizing transgender teens who commit suicide. 3. Encourage them to get good therapy for their problems and think carefully about whether or not they should transition. 4. Encourage them to stay connected to their family, even if their family is skeptical.

Excellent advice. Thank you.