Anonymous asked:

Headline: "Historic News, Female Genital Mutilation has been Banned in Nigeria." In other news, "Watch the Emotional Moment This Trans Teen Was Surprised With Her First Dose Of Hormones." What nobody is talking about - transition involves cutting off breasts and penises.

And all the social transitioning of little children, setting them up and conditioning them for those surgical procedures in their future… Orwell lives.

ducknmom-blog-deactivated202106 asked:

Tumblr newbie; joined to follow this group. My daughter has GID. She's in her mid-teens and has been a tomboy since the age of 5. She's brainwashed by social media BS indoctrinating her in to believing that lack of self acceptance = you must take hormones and have srs. Like most of you, I'm trying to save my kid from irreparable physical & mental damage of hormones and srs. I've spent a couple of days reading these posts. Any suggestions for no-BS, valid, functional treatment for our kids? Thx

Please join me and other parents  on my WordPress blog in the About section. It’s where parents in your situation congregate.  There are lots of people in the same boat as you are, with new comments and parents joining daily.

I would try to find a therapist who will work with her on issues other than wanting to transition. You’ll need to vet them first. Be prepared to make a bunch of phone calls because it will be like finding a needle in a haystack. In my view, you need to make sure she knows how much you love her, but you won’t validate her idea that she is not actually female.  Support interests and hobbies that get her OFF the Internet and outdoors, or other places where she can ground herself in her body. You are not alone. Hope to see you here:

http://4thwavenow.com/about/

Anonymous asked:

Advice---Have a very feminine, shy 14 yr daughter who really quite suddenly has decided she's "androgynous" and wants to be called they. She's also decided she's asexual. We've politely ignored the "they" comments as she hasn't directly asked, so it's been easy to skirt around. The deal is, she's not even the slightest bit masculine (not that we would care if she was a "Tomboy" but she's not). She seems to hate that she's got boobs and period now.How can I steer her back before it's too late?

This is so common–girls starting to hate their bodies when they hit puberty. It used to be that we all got through puberty, somehow, and came out the other side. Now with the Tumblrites telling everyone they need a “gender identity” and the magic of “transition” being marketed on YouTube, girls wrestling with the overwhelming changes happening to their minds and bodies think they can bail out of the whole thing. Please come over to my WordPress blog in the “About” section to join a community of parents. My main advice (which is still evolving) is not to actively support or validate her identity as anything other than a wonderful female, but lectures won’t be effective, either. Does she have interests or hobbies? If not, I’d ask her if there are activities, sports, things she’d like to pursue. Physical activities that will help ground her in her body and help her think about something other than her “gender identity.”

Please join us here:

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San Francisco company selling "packers" for trans boys, ages 4 and up 4thwavenow.com

I want to think…I have to hope…that the public at large thinks this is just a bridge too far. But the writer of the original article didn’t say a word about it. It was all human interest, like all these stories are. The poor little trans boy who needs a packer and a stand-to-pee, bravely supplied by his doting mother.

Hello? Anybody?

GenderTrender also picked up the story early this morning, with more explicit detail.

How is it that only obscure, part-time, anonymous bloggers are on this case?

Anonymous asked:

Telling children that they can be either sex is a lie. The fact is that we can't really give people functioning reproductive systems and genitals for the opposite sex. I've seen blogs where parents don't want to tell their kids the unpleasant truth. If you decide to live as a boy, you have to choose between giving up genital sensation and having a micro-penis. Or to become a girl, you may lose the ability to orgasm and your vagina will be about your partner, not you. Either way, no babies.

 I feel so badly for these parents. They have been fed a line that they are abusive, or that they will make their little child commit suicide, if they don’t go along with this stuff. And of course, little kids have NO CONCEPT of what it will mean to have extreme genital surgeries or to be permanently infertile. And yet the gender doctors actually allow pre-pubescent children to make these decisions (after years of brainwashing them into thinking you can actually change sex). There will be lawsuits. The only question is when the first one will hit.

Anonymous asked:

Re: the Daily Mail article. Psychologists figured out a long time ago that pre-school children have an idea of gender that is different from adults. They think that if you wear girls' clothes, you are a girl. If you change your clothes, you change your gender. Their ideas are more rigid than adults and they think you should fit the proper roles for your sex. As children learn to think more abstractly, they understand that they have male and female bodies and gender roles can be changed.

…which is why VALIDATING these rigid and deeply childish ideas about gender is such a mistake. It is mind boggling that entire societies are colluding in this.

Anonymous asked:

While I understand a lot of your points about believing young people aren't mature enough to choose to transition (& that a lot of trans people agree), I also think the "parents always know best" mentality can be harmful. My father tried to stop me from transitioning, and I ultimately didn't. But we still became estranged. I can't trust someone who thought the important decisions in my life were his, not mine, to make. And I'm not a lesbian nor happily gender-non-conforming now ...

I definitely don’t think parents *always* know best. Any honest parent of a teen or young adult will tell you they make plenty of parenting mistakes, and are sometimes proven wrong. I do think that parents often know better than therapists or other stranger-adults who don’t always have the best interests of the kid at heart, to be honest. Nor do those other adults have the benefit of having lived with the kid and knowing how sudden (or not) the desire to “transition” may have been, what other kinds of longstanding issues there are, and so on.

The thing is, parents and kids often become estranged—sometimes for years–because of differences of opinions (or values) about all sorts of things. Many of the people I know were estranged from their parents as teens or young adults–and this was before medical transition was a thing. Later, they reconciled. Speaking only for myself, most of the things my mother (the main player in my case) disapproved of turned out to be things I ended up agreeing with her on later.  Your mileage may vary, but estrangement between parents and teens, especially when the parents see the course the kid is trying to take as potentially harmful, is pretty common.

All of this said, it’s my personal opinion that medical transition should be a decision taken by an adult, preferably one over about the age of 25 when the brain’s decision-making capabilities are more mature. I honestly don’t see how anyone who has lived through the tumult of adolescence can be in favor of adolescent brains making permanent medical decisions that will have to be lived with forever.

Anonymous asked:

I've been on T for 2 plus years and during that time had dreams of being a girl again. I brushed those off for a long time, but now after being treated for depression/anxiety I worry that I made a mistake in starting hormones. I'm not sure what to do! I'm thinking of taking s break from T and seeing if my body changes back even a little. But how can I tell everyone I made a mistake when I was so adamant about being a man who just liked "feminine" things?

Anon, I understand this is not easy. Please get in touch with redressalert . She, and others who have been on your journey, are here for you.  Please also watch this space for reblogs of your Ask.  You are not alone. 

Anonymous asked:

The Finnish study of the girl ratio & mental health is interesting, but I can assure you that none, or few, of the girls featured got any transition-related care. The rest were referred to mental health professionals.

Good to know. It sounds like Finland differs vastly from how things are handled in the US. The American Psychological Association recently released guidelines which admonished therapists to prioritize “gender dysphoria” above other mental health concerns–i.e., it is becoming more difficult for therapists to address preexisting psychological issues that could be possible contributors to the dysphoria.