Anonymous
asked:
I'm a 21 year old lesbian who has watched a number of her friends declare themselves to be 'genderqueer' or ftm rather than the seemingly dirty word of lesbian or even woman. I'm gnc and constantly asked what my preferred pronouns are. When I proudly say SHE it is met with derision and a sneer as if I'll soon grow out of it. This new attack on womanhood is frightening. Thank you for creating this blog and posting the truth.
4thwavenow
answered:

Keep the faith. It gives me hope and courage just hearing from young women like you. I recommend immersing yourself in some of the lesbian feminist literature and music from the Second Wave: Meg Christian, Cris Williamson, Teresa Trull, and many others. I look forward to more out lesbian performers as we move out of Peak Trans.

sinbadism

stop trying to encourage  trans men/non-women to be in the closet and not transition. that’s fucking shitty to women like me who would rather not be in lesbian spaces full of self-hating non-lesbians

4thwavenow

See, I don’t consider it a closet, and I’m not going to stop offering my opinions. I’m on Tumblr because I feel voices like mine have been silenced: thoughtful, caring, progressive-liberal parents who feel cowed into submission by the much louder voices issuing from the dominant trans paradigm. 

I don’t think anyone should have to be in a lesbian space who doesn’t want to be, and i don’t want to see anyone hate themselves. What I am suggesting is more support for and more thought given to other solutions for the very real personal, subjective feeling of gender dysphoria. There are some amazing destransitioners on Tumblr who can address this far better than I can, and I hope they will weigh in here.