If I may be so bold… As a second wave feminist, I’m noticing an awful lot of infighting in feminist online communities. So much energy is being wasted drawing lines of demarcation between lesbians, bisexuals, and straight feminists who basically are coming from the same place: gender critical, anti-porn, and heavily criticizing the dominant, watered down, liberal feminist paradigm. There’s way too much holier-than-thou machinations going on.

Progressives and liberals are known for circular firing squads, and it makes for very ineffective politics. Do you want to change the world or don’t you? Keep your eye on the prize. We want to make a big mark on society. It can’t be done if we’re constantly cannibalizing our own. And trust me: our true political enemies revel in and benefit from our civil war.

As the great Bernice Johnson Reagon, founder of Sweet Honey in the Rock, said, “If you’re in a coalition and you’re comfortable, you know it’s not a broad enough coalition.”

Stop all the squabbling. Political change is serious business. Martin Luther King marched with a lot of white people. We need each other. Aim your anger where it belongs.