I feel bad for your situation. I hear what you’re saying when you tell me that you’re worried about your daughter and you don’t know what to do. I hear that you care and that you’re searching for answers.
I don’t really have anything more to offer you than what is already on my blog. I have my…
twentythreetimes THANK YOU so much for writing this. You have really helped me learn and realize some things I was blind to. Of COURSE this would hurt. How could I not see that before?
I would like to delete the probably hurtful reblog you refer to in your eloquent post, but perhaps it’s best I leave it to serve as an example of what NOT to do as a gender-critical parent?
And you’ve made me think harder about how the light of scrutiny should shine squarely on the adults–the psychiatric-medical establishment–that encourages kids to transition in the first place. I just know that so many of them have drunk the Kool-Aid–and those who haven’t are afraid of rocking the boat.
In a lot of ways, parents have simply abdicated responsibility, closed their eyes to the whole thing. The kids are having to figure everything out for themselves. There is also the idea that parents like me are just old fashioned and out-of-step and we should keep our noses out of it.
One other thing: As you are probably well aware, young people tend to listen to each other–not the adults in their lives. One reason you are probably hearing from some worried parents is that they feel their kids might be willing to learn something from a peer that they would entirely blow off from a parent or other adult.
I very much appreciate you taking the time to write this post. I know of several other parents who will find it helpful, too. I actually started this blog to attract other adults who would have an interest in challenging the dominant paradigm; but clearly, that must be done with tact and sensitivity.
