I feel bad for your situation. I hear what you’re saying when you tell me that you’re worried about your daughter and you don’t know what to do. I hear that you care and that you’re searching for answers.
I don’t really have anything more to offer you than what is already on my blog. I have my…
THANK YOU so much for writing this. You have really helped me learn and realize some things I was blind to. Of COURSE this would hurt. How could I not see that before?
I would like to delete the probably hurtful reblog you refer to in your eloquent post, but perhaps it’s best I leave it to serve as an example of what NOT to do as a gender-critical parent? I very much appreciate you taking the time to write this post.
The reason mothers like us reach out to you is because we are seriously worried about our young, confused, brainwashed, gender dysphoric daughters and we have difficulties finding resources for them which won’t continue to push them in this direction. We want our daughters to hear from BOTH sides, even though the one that reports ‘all positive’ ftm information is currently the loudest. While we are sad that you went through this, we want our daughters to LEARN FROM your experiences (much like the Mayday TV show does re airplane crashes). You are amazing, courageous womyn who have been through and are going through a lot and sharing your stories is important.
23xx brings up a good point that I don’t see raised enough, what about the clueless therapist and the negligent doctors? I’m astonished and appalled by the (sub)standard care trans folk receive. It’s one thing when you’re talking about a 45 year old man who if he doesn’t know better that’s on him, but these are kids. And it’s a misnomer to say they’re being experimented on, because experiments, even ones done on animals have stringent protocols. I remember even ten years ago, doctors were reluctant to diagnose young people with mental disorders because of their youth and the way so many disorders mimic one another in young people. For instance, ADHD and bi-polar disorder can look very much alike in kids. Just yesterday I saw an article in npr touting the efficacy of puberty blockers. Puberty blockers FFS! So not only are they happy to diagnose kids these days they’re willing to prescribe something that will shut down their natural body processes as treatment for a mental disorder.
And could someone please explain to me why, in this litigious climate these doctors aren’t being sued to hell and back? What the hell is up with that?
In the Orwellian world that we currently live in, it’s almost considered malpractice NOT to supply these treatments. The recent teen suicides are widely attributed to the fact that these kids were not allowed to medically transition right away.
We need to keep talking about all of this the way we are here and try to expand the discussion into other forums so that more people will feel able to speak out. That’s the only way anything is going to change. I’d be interested in hearing opinions from others about ways to be more proactive. The only way the course of history changes is when a large enough group of people forces it to shift in a new direction.
