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THANK YOU so much (cut for length)
The reason mothers like us reach out to you is because we are seriously worried about our young, confused, brainwashed, gender dysphoric daughters (cut for length)
Personally I had never heard of detransition until getting in radfem circles. (cut for length)
“All we can do is share our reasons for saying “no”, which is that we worry deeply about being unable to reverse the decision if there is a need to.”
It really is that simple.
I’d like to know how two mothers can read this bullshit from mumtears (who has since apologized to redressalert…?) comparing me to an airplane crash (cut for length)
Dear twentythreetimes, in my original reblog of your post, I had hoped that I had let you know that I heard you loud and clear. I felt terrible about my clumsiness and poor awareness of the level of pain you felt at being held up as a “bad example” or as someone who owed anything to parents of daughters considering transition. After reading your original post, I also wrote an apology to sheshouldvebeena-son and offered to remove my reply to her post, but I also thought I should leave it so you could use ME and my comments as a bad example of a “gender critical” parent. I guess my second reblog of the post with radfem-momma’s comments somehow obscured my original mea culpa, and I’m sorry for causing you additional pain.
All that said, please understand that I am experiencing my own suffering in a very different life situation than you are in, and mistakes I make in the process of talking about or dealing with that are just that–mistakes. Your powerful original post taught me a lot, specifically about the nature of your pain AND why you don’t want to be used in the way you feel you have been online.
Please don’t make me into an enemy. I’m not. I’m a flawed but well meaning human being doing the best I can.
Putting oneself out in the Wild West that is the public Internet is very risky. I’ve received quite a bit of hate in my short time here, and I don’t want to add to anyone else’s pain–especially someone who I consider to be an ally. Please accept my apology again, and let me know what else I can do to help heal the wound I’ve helped to cause.
