Anonymous asked:

(I think this will be a mult. part ask so please bear with me x3 I'll post [End] when I'm done) 1/? After going a bit through your blog, I understand where you're coming from with underage transitioning, but I did notice an "I don't think medical transitioning is the answer" -correct me if I'm wrong- As a trans man with a mom who thinks this too, I can say it's very damaging to be told this. That I just "hate girls". Dysphoria can be so crippling I will look at my body and feel disfigured- WRONG

Let me respond to this first part of your message since I don’t see the rest of your question yet. 

I’ve had a few comments/questions recently from people with the kind of terrible dysphoria you describe, and let me just say I am obviously no expert on that and I respect that your feelings are real. A couple of people have written some very eloquent posts on coping with dysphoria that I reblogged and I’d be happy to point you to them if you want. 

Second, I know we parents can hurt our kids by what we say to them.  There are some awful, abusive parents, but most of us do care and are just trying our best. Since your mom expressed the same concerns I have on this blog, I can understand where she’s coming from in not supporting medical transition–and I can understand how you’d feel wounded by that, since it sounds like you feel medical transition is what will give you relief from this dysphoria you feel. 

Would you be at all open to considering alternatives to medical transition? If you would, there are some great people on here who have taken the medical route but then later “detransitioned,” as well as a few who were planning to transition but then found other ways to cope. Please respond if you’d be open to hearing from them, and I think they’d likely write something here with more knowledge about what you’re going through than I can.