What the actual fuck. The child basically said that they don’t want to be a girl because girls are treated fucking bad. Idk how a child saying she doesn’t like being a girl suddenly = trans. The child has experienced trauma related to sexual abuse! This is a reaction to abuse.
Like, even when I was a libfem I wouldn’t be like “Oh, here are some videos for parents of trans children. Congratulations.”
I would have recommended they take the child to therapy for their trauma. I would have recommended medical help, not information for parents with trans children.
I recognize dysphoria is a real thing, but this doesn’t appear that way to me. People are so quick to ignore the abuse this child went through, and jump conclusions. What the actual fuck.
Plus, the mother didn’t even say the word “trans” - she said non-binary. geek&misandry is fucking jumping the gun with that shit.
Tagging: @rad-femmes @rejecting-the-gender-cult @witwitch @terfzilla @evilterf and anyone else for thoughts. This has really upset me. I can’t believe this mother reached out for help and was given nothing of any use other than “your child is trans” from g&m and her followers.
@geekandmisandry, What in the hell are you thinking? What is the meaning of this? This parent is clearly trying to deal with a young girl who is responding to trauma (either personal trauma or the danger of impending trauma, probably both lbr) and has become alienated from her own body, from other girls and women, and from her own womanhood as a result. Why are you encouraging that? Do you see that as a healthy, whole, reality-based, nurturing response to dealing with misogyny? What kind of advice is this to vulnerable, sensitive young women and their families?? I urge you to reconsider giving this kind of advice. I urge you to think very hard of the very real ramifications of affirming this kind of thing.
I want to make a commercial advertising this kind of thought process. It would go something like this:Feel alienated from your own body?
From other women?
From your social conditioning?
From society at large?
Think you’re “not like other girls”?
Think you’re deeply, forever different from the women you see around you, on some fundamental level that they’ll never, ever get?
Do you sometimes feel so apart from them that you hate them a little bit?
Do you hate the part of yourself that is like them, and you want to run from it screaming, but you don’t even really know why, and nobody around you knows how the fuck to identify let alone deal with girls and women’s issues because lol who cares about females?
Have you, like so many women, turned your anger and fear about society’s overwhelming misogyny on yourself instead?
Have you grown up feeling like something is inherently, deeply, irrevocably wrong with you?
Surprise,you have been deeply traumatized like so many women have and need to come to terms with your place in the world and integrate your narrative of yourself and your relationship with your body and the world around you and go through a long, difficult healing process ….….or, you know, fuck all that! You’re probably just trans!
It’s the new sensation that’s sweeping the nation! Ask your doctor now!
Nobody ever gave you the tools to demand respect and physical boundaries?
Now you’ll discover a whole new world of insisting on esoteric terminology and redefining your very own physical container.
Be less Like Other Girls™ than ever before.
Be more like a Real Human Being instead! (…You know, a man, or “non-binary”, or whatever. Just…anything but a woman. Ugh. Women. Womanhood. What even is that, right????)
You’ll have the vocabulary to demand utter control.
You’ll have more support than you’ve ever had before from a community that will welcome you, coddle you, draw lines in the sand for you, and teach you who is an insider and who is an outsider.
They’ll do the thinking for you.
You’ll be able to ritualize your self-care in a clear, defined way that you may have never had before- therapist and doctor’s appointments, specialized garments, a twice-monthly shot, the list goes on!
You’ll be able to make demands from doctors in ways you never could!
You’ll have clear goals for your life. You’ll be able to start over. New haircut, new wardrobe, new name, new empowered language, new goals, new friends!
And everything will be better…..once you get HRT!
Everything will sort itself out….one you have top surgery!
Everything will be better….as the markers of your female-ness (which are the same as “femininity” right? It’s one and the same, right?) melt away! (But never actually leave, ever, no matter what you do. But nevermind that.)
Everything will be better. Everything will sort itself out. Don’t confront or examine anything. This explains everything. It’s the center of the universe now.
WARNING:
Results may vary.Participants may be digging themselves into a hole.
Nothing will actually change on a fundamental level.
All of this is conditional.
Question nothing.
You’re still “dfab” so keep your mouth shut.
The reality of your entire life=irrelevant.
The second you disidentified with womanhood, you somehow magically became Privileged.
Are you a teenaged lesbian who is seen and treated by society as female?
Doesn’t matter: You now somehow have privilege over a late-transitioning straight autogynephile in his 50′s with a failed marriage and two children, so “take a seat” as they say.
Also, you should be open to dating him, or something???
After insisting on your identity and fighting so hard, it will take tremendous strength to admit to yourself, let alone others, that you were wrong. You will receive ZERO support from your “loving” community.
(Fine print:
Your identity will not save you from misogyny.
Living a lie wont save you from this world.
Lying to yourself wont save you from yourself.
Making up a new name and pretending you’re not like those other girls, you’re not anything like any girl at all, will not save you.
Only the truth will set you free.
You can be any kind of woman you want and need to be.
You can be a new kind of woman.
We are waiting for you.)Fuck, I’m so tired. I’m so tired.
The horrific thing is that the entire society–the media, the medical profession, trans activists–are essentially giving the exact same misguided “advice” to confused parents. This brainwashing must end. Our girls deserve to be supported in becoming whole, not splintering into a million fragments with the encouragement of Tumblr armchair psychologists.
