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Sid said life was much simpler in his younger years, when he was labeled a tomboy for playing with trucks instead of Barbie dolls.

“I was just very masculine growing up as a child, but I had no knowledge of what it was to be transgender,” Sid said. “I had no wanting to be a boy or really even a girl—I was just being a kid. No one really cared about what I looked like. But you hit middle school and the peer pressure and influence starts.”

In sixth grade, Sid began realizing that he didn’t look or act like other girls—they were fascinated with wearing makeup, straightening their hair and talking about boys, while he had short hair and wore boy shorts and baggy shirts to school every day. Sid remembers trying, for a time, to conform to what seemed normal by growing long locks and maintaining a more feminine appearance.

“It was just really fake. I didn’t have much depth to myself as a person,” he said. “I wasn’t really sure who I was, but then again, I didn’t think about it too much because I was like, 11 or 12 years old. I thought this was something everyone goes through.”

Sid’s transition began in eighth grade, when he came out as a lesbian to his friends and family. He began facing instances of cyber bullying on the site Ask.fm, where peers sent him hateful messages. Rather than becoming depressed about the negativity, Sid said he began embracing who he is and truly understanding the separation of gender and orientation.

“I realized that I was born a male—that’s what it is to be transgender,” Sid said. “We are born the identity we’re supposed to live as. It took me a long time, but the epiphany I had was that I was born in the wrong body, not that my mind was wrong.”

Girl believes she’s not like other girls because she’s not interested in makeup and boys in middle school; after coming out as a lesbian, receiving homophobic bullying, identifies as male

As a girl who grew up not conforming to gender roles, this is really fucking outrageous and sad to me.

It’s okay to be a girl and not care about boys, makeup, dresses, and dolls. It’s normal. It’s okay. We’re human beings and we’re diverse and we’re not all going to fit in the little gender role boxes that were crafted for us.

Transing children for not conforming to gender roles is sick.

This is the one big thing that bothers me

because I had lesbian friends tell me their stories, and had a trans acquaintance tell me and my girlfriend that -oh, not to worry- i, drift, will be transitioning soon because i am a boyish lesbian. (Yes i had a period where i looked much much less femme).

If you feel that your body is somehow wrong and should be different, i accept that and i believe that the option of changing it should be available for all, without question.

But for gods sake, do not use transitioning as an excuse to reinforce gender roles. Gender roles are bullshit. We are allowed to enjoy things that are traditionally “for the other gender”. You can love people of the same sex. You can wear skirts if you are a man and you can be into makeup. You can be a mechanic if you are a woman, you can hate makeup and skirts. NONE of those things define womanhood and manhood. And implying so would be misogynistic, homophobic and, well, transphobic.

I dont actually know, and I would like to find out if there is any solid data quantifying this pressure to transition if you dont fit in. Let me know if you got anything, any studies?
But it definitely exists. And I really hope that it is not a frequent thing.

A magical pill to bypass suffering: how teens are persuaded to start transition - TransgenderReality

“The trans test”: self-medicating in the trans community - Transgender Reality

“At least get on blockers. At the very least! You’ll regret waiting further” - Transgender Reality

Peer Pressure to Transition - 4thWaveNow

There is no pressure to transition..there is no pressure to transition… - GenderTrender

FTM Detransitioner : The Subcultural Pressure On Young Women To Medically “Transition”- Gender Trender

“How much pressure do you feel to transition?” - 4thWaveNow