Might have negative health effects, but so what?

A typical Tumblr post under the tag #trans parenting

it makes me so fucking angry when i see people like my friends with parents completely unsupportive of them being trans. i honestly don’t think parents should be trusted to make those kinds of decisions and they shouldn’t be allowed to have control. most parents deal with trans children in the worst ways possible and it’s sickening.

it might have negative health effects but i will totally advocate for other people self medicating when their parents aren’t accepting. at the point where nothing can be done to convince parents, you have to take things into your own hands. especially when dysphoria is too much to live with

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It might have negative health effects, but who cares?

*Note: I deliberately do not link directly to blogs with comments like these because I don’t want to drive traffic there AND I am not trying to start a personal catfight with anyone. My goal is to raise awareness. The posts are easily found via a Tumblr search.

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"My problem is: I dont' have dysphoria". On wanting to be transgender transgenderreality.com
A poster asks r/asktransgender: How do you know you’re transgender? (archived link) Growing up, I was always a ‘tomboy’. I liked to play with boys, playing soccer, with legos and remote controlled …

“This obsessing over “timelines” and youtube videos is a staple of these stories, and if you pay attention when browsing places like r/asktransgender you will see them a lot. Person being happy with their sex goes on week-long binge of obsessively consuming trans stories, a few weeks later they are feeling awful about their bodies and want to transition…I’m not dysphoric. I’m not disgusted with my female body, I’d just really rather it was a male body. Could I be transgender, or is this something else entirely?”

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I’m starting to see a pattern here…  

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“I’ve given plenty of trans girls shots from my supply”: creepy behavior in the trans community | Transgender Reality transgenderreality.com

And I imagine there are analogous giveaways of testosterone to teen girls whose parents aren’t bankrolling their “transition” to FTM.

Transgenderreality.com is providing a really important service. Please let parents of gender nonconforming kids know about this site.

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It’s good to see some people aren’t being shouted down:

“This is a place for us to document the cult-like tactics of the trans community, the abusers being shielded by the trans community to further their politics, and the recruitment tactics of young people into transgender beliefs. If you’re not here to discuss these issues, comment on a different blog.”

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Anonymous asked:

I apologise if this is rude & feel free not to answer if you don't want to, but I was wondering what your sexual orientation is? I've seen you mentioning loving a man & loving women & it would be great to hear of someone who's gender-critical & bi because I am too but most bisexuals I know are into queer theory & most lesbians I see are gender critical but many of them (not all ofc) can say some pretty biphobic stuff that really gets to me. Just kind of lonely. It's obvs fine if you're not tho

I have had committed relationships with both men and women. So if asked, I have to honestly answer that I am bisexual, despite the stigma and stereotypes associated with that label. But the way “bisexual” is now claimed as an identity, and seen by others, seems to be different than when I was younger. “Back in the day,” being bi was seen (wrongly) as being indiscriminate or even promiscuous (which I never was—always monogamous). 

Now it seems that a lot of  actually lesbian women call themselves “bi” because they won’t claim “lesbian” due to the lesbophobia and the pressure from the gender-trans fanatics not to be “monosexual.” I notice “panssexual” seems to be the cool label today, meaning you basically are open to anyone, regardless of genitals, surgical status, or biological sex. So women who are are truly bi (not “pan”) risk being seen as part of this messed up identity/gender BS. And I’m sure there are some bisexuals who attack lesbians for being too narrow or whatever, but that is just abhorrent.

I find the idea that a person is somehow obligated to have sex with someone outside their sexual orientation to be utterly repugnant and oppressive. 

Fundamental sexual orientation is real. I hate that young women can’t just be who they are—lesbian, straight, or bisexual—but must be questioned, shamed, or pressured by anyone. 

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Gender critical? Lose friends

Anon said: “…This all needs to be said. Keep getting the word out…I can only comment on anon, because if my pomo-third-wave-trans-gender-queer-theory friends knew I was reading this sort of blogs, it would mess up some of my irl relationships with people pretty badly.”

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This is one of several comments I’ve received from people who appreciate the message and purpose of this blog, but feel that they have to keep their gender-trans-queer critical thoughts to themselves in their personal and professional lives due to the very real risk of losing friends, colleagues, or family. One earlier commenter even said they would actually lose their **home** if they criticized trans/queer dogma.

Most of us using Tumblr live in societies where free speech is supposedly valued, yet even a whisper of disagreement when it comes to the dominant identity and gender paradigm is tantamount to criticizing the government in an authoritarian society. 

I have been really encouraged by the voices I’ve heard on Tumblr. I started the blog hoping to attract other gender-critical parents (and I still very much want that), but it’s the amazing young people who are going to be the next wave that will, I hope, help create a change with their strong feminism and clear-eyed criticism. Thank you. I’m learning so much from everyone I encounter in this womb gestating new ideas and determination, deep inside the Internet.

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Anonymous asked:

I know of a situation where a kid in foster care is identifying as trans at the age of 12-14. The problem is that finding a placement is really hard - as they are making the other children question themselves when they were happy beforehand. The other children are getting very upset at suggestions that their gender non-conforming is wrong/ they have to be trans. Hence placement is really, really hard. Do you know many resources for trans kids to understand gender better and not trans everyone?

There is something seriously wrong here. Instead of kids being supported—and supporting each other—for being who they are, the kids are being pressured by ANOTHER kid into identifying themselves as trans. 

Anyone reading this have a suggestion for resources as Anon asked for? It does seem that “trans” has now become a verb, as in, “Stop trans’ing me!” 

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butiwasntaboy

Lesbian crush on straight girl> become a straight boy?

butiwasntaboy:

bbrightstar:


I can relate to the first bit on being fixated on unavailable women(or girls). Straight women appealed to me more than queer women because of the value I placed on femininity/conformity at the time. Being lesbian or bi was highly discouraged, but being a “Straight boy” wasn’t. In turn I started to gravitate towards “becoming a boy” for the sake of having these girls like me back. (other reasons as well, but this one was high up there). It’s compulsory hetereosexuality on a whole-nother level. Where otherwise very obviously-queer people go through transition to literally transition into straightness because of homophobia. Obviously sexuality doesn’t work that way…but I was a kid and there’s a lot of misinformation out there that brainwashes people, it sure did for me. This is ironically similar to how many trans-women seek to transition in order to call themselves lesbians or appropriate lesbianism and gain access to those spaces. Something about disregarding/breaking women’s boundaries is made to be so appealing under patriarchy, I am sad to admit it’s something even females subscribe to. 


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vulvapeople

Anonymous asked:

re: your post on Blake Brockington's suicide, something that the trans community absolutely refuses to discuss is how much they themselves promote the "transition or suicide" narrative to young gender-questioning people. the blog "Transgender Reality" is documenting cases on reddit where often very young teenagers are egged on by peers and older trans people to go from "I don't really feel like a boy/girl" to "if I don't get hormones now I'll kill myself" in literal days. it's frightening.

4thwavenow answered:

I have read every post on “Transgender Reality,” and there is no question that some in the transgender community are heavily indoctrinating young teens who just have questions about their identity and gender. I think kids who are socially isolated are especially vulnerable to online pressure.

 I agree—it is terrifying, and the most scary thing is that very few people are raising the issue as you just have. Thank you. Here is a link to the site for those who are not familiar with it:

http://transgenderreality.com/

vulvapeople:

kiwipally:

Do we, as multiple societies, need to have a discussion on how the internet affects young people to such a marked degree? My society has rules on how advertisers are and are not allowed to market to children using television, but the internet seems to be much more influential and is completely unregulated.

I don’t know if there’s a way to regulate the Internet reliably though.

The only alternative I can see is from the medical side, trying to make it standard that a kid who seems to be intentionally threatening suicide to get what he/she wants is denied transitioning until that behavior stops.

Although, given that one of the preeminent gender therapy pediatricians in the U.S. has been abandoning long-accepted standards for treatment of dysphoric children (administering cross-sex hormones to kids as young as 12, against the accepted standard of 16), I’m not really sure how well that will work either.

In the end, I think this is likely to be “settled” in civil court when adults start suing doctors for sterilizing them as children.

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vulvapeople

pretty sure my daughter is a lesbian

radicallyhaley:

radfem-momma:

she changed a lot of her descriptions on social media to say “pansexual, but leans towards girls”.  I’ve kinda known for years but of course you don’t put labels on your kids unless they do it first but anyway… I realized its pretty fucking impossible to come out as a lesbian these days. You have to be attracted to *femininity* instead of actual females to call yourself a lesbian in queer theory. What is she supposed to say without being called a bigot? Its so hard to watch this. I just hope no creepy MTFs fuck with her. She is super entrenched in queer theory and would never accept any allusion that she is not obligated to be interested in transwomen.

Luckily she is stubborn and rude to people who bother her so maybe it will work out. *sweats nervously*

i wish you the best of luck for your daughter. i can’t even imagine how difficult it must be as a young teenager growing up in this cesspool of postmodernism.

That “pansexual” label seems to be the thing now. God forbid you should be “monosexual.” Strange times we live in.

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