4thWaveNow

Anonymous asked:

I apologise if this is rude & feel free not to answer if you don't want to, but I was wondering what your sexual orientation is? I've seen you mentioning loving a man & loving women & it would be great to hear of someone who's gender-critical & bi because I am too but most bisexuals I know are into queer theory & most lesbians I see are gender critical but many of them (not all ofc) can say some pretty biphobic stuff that really gets to me. Just kind of lonely. It's obvs fine if you're not tho

I have had committed relationships with both men and women. So if asked, I have to honestly answer that I am bisexual, despite the stigma and stereotypes associated with that label. But the way “bisexual” is now claimed as an identity, and seen by others, seems to be different than when I was younger. “Back in the day,” being bi was seen (wrongly) as being indiscriminate or even promiscuous (which I never was—always monogamous).

Now it seems that a lot of actually lesbian women call themselves “bi” because they won’t claim “lesbian” due to the lesbophobia and the pressure from the gender-trans fanatics not to be “monosexual.” I notice “panssexual” seems to be the cool label today, meaning you basically are open to anyone, regardless of genitals, surgical status, or biological sex. So women who are are truly bi (not “pan”) risk being seen as part of this messed up identity/gender BS. And I’m sure there are some bisexuals who attack lesbians for being too narrow or whatever, but that is just abhorrent.

I find the idea that a person is somehow obligated to have sex with someone outside their sexual orientation to be utterly repugnant and oppressive.

Fundamental sexual orientation is real. I hate that young women can’t just be who they are—lesbian, straight, or bisexual—but must be questioned, shamed, or pressured by anyone.