4thWaveNow

radically-thinking:

shadycatz:

scarlet-void:

iamatinyowl:

cat—beard:

tiaraloveskandlupita:

(x)

“I think she (Shiloh) is fascinating, the choices she is making. And I would never be the kind of parent to force somebody to be something they are not. I think that is just bad parenting… Children should be allowed to express themselves in whatever way they wish without anybody judging them because it is an important part of their growth. Society always has something to learn when it comes to the way we judge each other, label each other. We have far to go.” (x)

Shiloh, we feel, has Montenegro style,” she said. “It’s how people dress there.She likes tracksuits, she likes [regular] suits. She likes to dress like a boy.She wants to be a boy. So we had to cut her hair. She likes to wear boys’ everything. She thinks she’s one of the brothers.” (x)

#STOPACCUSINGPEOPLEOFTRANSPHOBIA2K15

#STOPMISGENDERINGSHILOHJOLIEPITT2K15

"She wants to be a boy” she is literally misgendering her child that has made it clear that they “want” to be a boy.

Okay, I totally see your point but like….. it’s a lot of work to eradicate problematic language from your life. Everyone slips up. Everyone fucks up. It takes constant effort. She might not be as educated on transphobic language or the importance of language, or even transphobia politically. I think her attitude is amazing and supportive and loving and she is still new to this. I think she will learn as she goes. Nobody is perfect and it’s her first experience with having a trans child and you can really tell that she is trying. I’m sure once Shiloh says she wants to be called ‘he’ Angelina will make effort to change her pronoun use, but for all we know Shiloh may not have gender dysmorphia and is perfectly fine with being referred to as ‘she’.

Listen, I’m tired of this. Shiloh is just gender non-conforming. She just doesn’t like the gender that has been forcefully imposed on her, as it is instilled by force on every girl from birth. She does not conform to this gender hierarchy, which isn’t a spectrum, it’s a hierarchy of oppression, you know it, we all know it. That doesn’t make her trans at all. It doesn’t make anyone trans. Just gender non-conforming, just being themselves, and it’s totally okay. For everyone’s sake, now a girl cannot like to play football, wear short-hair, suits without being a boy? What the hell is wrong with you people? You are just recycling gender again. This is harming the youth. This is harming you and everyone around you and, deep down all your nice messages and politically correct language, hides a very important piece of the gender hierarchy which puts men on top and women down, and you’re just reinforcing that. Please, stop. Stop this. Of course if everyone she sees like her are boys, she will maybe think she’s wrong and she’s a boy, don’t you see it?

You disgusting, delusional freaks need to shut the fuck up. She was TWO when she said she wanted to be called John because she LOVED PETER PAN.

YOU’RE USING A LITTLE GIRL TO FULFILL YOUR AGENDA YOU PIECES OF SHIT.

YOU THINK THAT A GIRL MUST BE A BOY ON THE INSIDE IF SHE ISN’T FEMININE. YOU’RE NOT BREAKING GENDER ROLES, YOU’RE REINFORCING THEM.

when i was a child i used to pretend i was a boy and got everyone to call me Pyro (from the x men), my sister got everyone to call her Martin instead of her real name. it wasn’t because we actually wanted to be boys, but because we grew up doing things that were typically considered boy things. we used to get teased a lot for not wearing dresses, or like pink, and for playing sports and being quite rough. we were told we were like boys and were called ‘tomboys’. stop saying that girls who are gender non-conforming must want to be boys, let them be children, and let them be little girls who enjoy things without being told they must actually be male. if you had’ve told me when i was a child that i was a boy i would have been very angry with you, it happened to me a lot and luckily i grew up with the mindset that i can do whatever boys do, and still be a girl

roslynholcomb:

4thwavenow:

Those of you who have been following me for awhile know where I’m coming from as a gender-critical parent.  I recently took a tour of trans parenting Tumblr blogs, and they’re full of what you might expect. A very small sampler:

“Parents please please please talk to your children about gender identity.
please teach children that there are more than two genders and that gender  is not what genitals you have”

“What my kindergartener taught me about gender”

“A mom and her 3-year-old explore gender”

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And of course, there is plenty of hate for parents who aren’t toeing the line.

The general theme is: Kids ALWAYS know best. Defer to your child and their self-defined gender identity, with no questions asked, no matter how young your child is.

I’ve recently heard from three gender-critical parents of teen girls who want to transition, or who already have. All three are discouraged. They feel like they’ve stumbled into an upside-down reality where they are told to ignore their instincts and doubts and enter the brave new world their children have created.

If there is to be a change in the dominant paradigm, parents are going to have to be involved. They’ll have to find a way to buck the trend. It won’t be easy, and they’ll need support.

I can’t imagine how traumatic this must be for the parents. They need to remember that questioning your parents, your gender and everything else is a normal developmental stage. And if your kids don’t hate you at some point you’re probably doing parenting wrong. 

I would think about some of the crazy shit I wanted to do when I was that age and how fucked up my life would’ve been had my parents actually let me. This is a learning stage for kids and we have to let them learn and grow, but we also have to keep them from doing stuff that will have PERMANENT consequences. 

And what is different now from when we were growing up–completely different–is that parents have basically zero societal or professional (psychologists or MD) support for even raising tentative questions. I went through 50+ blogs this morning, There was only one teen girl who stopped to consider whether her parents might have a point. Every other post consisted of jeers and ridicule at the transphobic, ignorant moms and dads who dare to put the brakes on even **medical transition**. 

Here is an excerpt from the one post I found that even hinted that mom might have a point. And of course, in response to this agonized post, the strangers on the Internet convince her that they are the experts. They know. Her mother’s words should be disregarded

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“But secretly I’m scared she’s right. What if I am making all this up? Yeah yeah, who would choose this right? But what if I did? What if I’m so “confused by everything” as my mom said that I’ve convinced myself Im trans?

It doesn’t seem right. I know what I feel, but she just gets in my head. This is so much harder than anyone tells you. How do you even get through these conversations and stick to your guns? I don’t know if she’s right and I’m confused or Im right and she’s manipulative. I love my mom, but I hate that she does this to me. I asked her to just support me through this and all she could say was that “I support you in everything else you do, but this is weird and it goes against everything about who you are. You don’t like to take Advil but you’ll pump yourself full of hormones. You’re terrified of surgery, but you’ll go through with getting rid of something that is a part of you. It’s not you.”

I don’t know what to do. Im so lost.

borderline-sunflower:

Queer theory attempts to treat the symptoms of gender roles and expectations being forced on people

Gender critical aims to prevent the symptoms before they occur by allowing everyone to be themselves without having to change their identity or call themselves queer to do so

The first wants you to choose what box to stick yourself in, the second wants to burn all the boxes so you can be free of them entirely.

radhacker:

4thwavenow Hi!  I know its late, but i had a lot of debate…

After everything you said in this post, with your realization that much of what you’d previously imbibed from the identity-gender agenda was a crock, I’m curious why you still define yourself with the transgender label. Can you say more?

I’m still against the identity-gender crock, which is precisely why i made this post.  If “transgender” has a meaning (which it does) and it is “anyone who doesnt identify with their sex stereotype”, then i AM transgender, not “self-identify as”, and so are many other women who don’t self-identify as such.  And those transgender women (and men) who have come to peace with their bodies, who are against transition, who are against the trans culture and gender rhetoric here, seem to be very much silenced, whether by lack of sharing or by pure, violent agression (i’ve seen it, many times over).  And its a huge problem that no transgender resource on here (or anywhere) promotes detransitioner awareness, alternatives to transition, or is against children transitioning, because ~that’s just heresy~.  And every transgender person ive heard from or talked to thinks such transgendered people dont exist, because “how could they!”.  Hell, a good portion of the time, as soon as you are against the dominant trans culture, youre “not actually trans” or “were never trans”.  They accuse us of gatekeeping, but what about this right here??  What is this other than???

I’m done with this identity politics bullshit, this arguing by “feels” instead of logic and semantics.  They say i am transgender.  I accept.  But this means i get a voice.  And thus this day is as much about my visiblity as everyone else’s.

Thank you for this. A really interesting perspective!