blinko asked:

one tiny thing your last post made me think of: I hate when people say that gender is like "the brain's map of the body," because that is literally the most misleading way to put that idea. It implies that there is science and biology and, like, numbers/metrics (mapping) involved when really gender is the MIND's ideas about how the body should be in order to be socially legible. It's not the "brain," it's the mind. It isn't a "map," it's socio-culturally-laden symbols and ideas about bodies.

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destroyallnerds-deactivated2017 asked:

until you have the proper experience with sociology and biology, please don't try to argue about gender and sex with people that know better than you, it really just makes you look pathetic

draumstafir-deactivated20150606 answered:

I love when 13 year olds try to tell me I’m uneducated bc I don’t think vaginas are social constructs

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misunderstood your original response, my bad.

gender could exist as an internal thing if you’re literally only referring to your brain’s map of your body, I guess. but that’s not how these people define gender. (I’m assuming they’re anti-truscum, but regardless). I’m still not fully comfortable with that though?

I do believe dysphoria exists as in your brain’s map of your body doesn’t match with your physical body. But I don’t think the treatment for that is surgery…

no I feel you, a lot of tumblr discourse lately uses ‘gender’ when they mean ‘gender roles’ so shit gets confusing. if I may ask, what do you think the treatment for dysphoria should be?

not sure exactly but I think it should be treated as a psychological disorder or something? like people have brain maps that tell them they shouldn’t have a left arm but we don’t go and cut off their arms. correct the map, not the body.

are there examples of individuals having brain maps that lack limbs where their physical body has the limb? to my knowledge it’s only been the other way around (i.e. amputees and phantom limbs)

yeah there are - I’d find the sources for you but I’m on mobile. it’s obviously not as common as phantom limb but it does happen.

It’s called Body Dysmorphic Disorder and the treatment is definitely not amputation. Keep fighting the good fight draumstafir.

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fadical-deactivated20150420

“Monosexual privilege”

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sometimes i wonder… imagine walking up to lesbians who fought for everything, who saw stonewall and built lesbian culture, who made herstories and bled and lost their lovers and wives and were loud in the 50s, the 70s, were visible and proud and were beaten down because of it, the lesbians who are now old and grey and still married because they fought for it, lesbians who died because of who they were, lesbians who were forced into straight marriages, lesbians who have scars, lesbians who have stories dating back years who still remember every grueling inch of acceptance they struggled for, lesbians with work-worn hands and strong tired eyes, older lesbians who are still scared to come out, lesbians who went to hell and back but never once gave up who they were and have bones made of steel and spines never bent under the burden of hate they’ve had to carry

imagine walking up to these women and uttering the words ‘monosexual privilege’

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Anonymous asked:

Referring to the article on gaystarnews.... Is it just me... or how can fetal development create a “female” brain but create a male body, or vice versa. The brain is developed to connect to every other organ in the body so it can function properly not determine “preferences/likes/desires". If Brains are wired to support and develop the bodies they are in. If people were really born with a “correct brain” and an “incorrect body” wouldnt that just cause a plethora of health conditions? (1/2)

Exactomundo.

Common sense is underrated in 2015.

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shadycatz-deactivated20151117

Too much genderist koolaid

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Sometimes you really DO have to be feminine to be a girl. It sounds like bullshit, but the idea that’girlhood’ doesn’t exist is a fucking radfeminist lie designed to not just silence, but KILL trans people and their collective experience of sexism, particularly transmisogyny. 

What is this fucking misogynistic trash oh my god oh my god
*barfs*

Perhaps I’m not explaining myself properly. I mean to say that little girls who grow up feeling disconnected from ‘girlhood’ maybe have a very good reason for that, for example, maybe they’re actually little boys, like I was/am. Does that make more sense now?

I repeat: what is this misogynistic trash?
Just because someone doesn’t like “girly things” doesn’t make them trans. Being trans is about dysphoria. Not “i am masculine” or “i am feminine.” All this does is perpetuate harmful ideas that all women are inherently feminine and all men are inherently masculine.
This idea is dangerous and i fear what it will mean for GNC children who are fine with their bodies, but whose parents drink to much of the genderist kool aid.

It’s official. All butch lesbians are actually men.

Also, I must be trans as well. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t shave, I absolutely hate feminine products, and I only conform to SOME female stereotypes because I’m not in full control of my life, being a teenager, and I don’t get to make all the decisions about what I do. Wow, I’m a boy!!!

I’m the parent of a GNC girl and I’m not drinking the damn genderist KoolAid, even if she is. What are we gonna do to reach the parents who are guzzling the stuff?

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Baby Boomer’s head explodes: How did gender politics ever gain traction?

One of the defining characteristics of a totalitarian ideology is that no one is allowed to question it. So it is with identity and gender politics today in leftist academic and activist circles. In the wake of the great liberation movements of the 20th century, how did this even happen?

I read a post today from a young lesbian who would be defined as “butch” by today’s standards, who is attracted to other butch women. Somehow this has become unacceptable. Taboo even, she says. She has faced ridicule and actual disgust because she isn’t attracted to who she is SUPPOSED to be attracted to: femmes. But guess who and what is cool? Trans “fags”—women who have “transitioned” into gay men. THEY are allowed to love each other.

All of this blows my baby boomer mind. When I was coming of age in the late 70s and 80s, I never heard any such term as “gender nonconforming.” Those of us who had relationships with other women would probably all be seen now as soft butch. Most of us didn’t bother with makeup or shaving or worrying about our looks. We reveled in each other. No one talked about who was “cute.” We called each other “women”—not girls. Our lover’s brain, as well as her confident way of moving through the world, were the primary attractants. We looked at the old butch-femme dynamic as quaint and old-fashioned. They were our foremothers, but we felt we’d been liberated from those rigid roles.  We were simply women-loving-women. Period.

What caused this huge step back?  What was the motivation to snatch away the liberation from the feminist movement—which has actually been aided and abetted by many in the LGBT community? The easy and quick answer is “misogyny” or “male privilege. But it’s got to be more than that. 

What the fuck happened?

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Anonymous asked:

I am afraid to ask/submit this openly because it might significantly hurt me in my real life (I could literally lose my home if I say anything deemed "transphobic") - but I have been pressured to transition before. I am a bisexual non-gender-conforming woman and a group of people seriously pressured me to "come out" as a trans man or at least "non-binary" when that failed. I actually wondered from time to time due to their pressure, but never came to such conclusions on my own.

The person who wrote this is afraid. Speaking her mind openly could cause her to lose her home! Many people like me are also afraid: parents who have no societal support to even **caution** their children about taking extreme medical decisions which could alter their bodies and minds forever. 

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thirdwaytrans

Dysphoria is very ordinary

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Many trans people talk about dysphoria as if it is some mysterious thing, that cannot possibly be comprehended by others. Having experienced gender dysphoria, I actually think it is a very ordinary thing. It is the discrepancy between how one would like the world to be and how the world is. You want your body to be one way, and it is a different way. You want to be treated in one way and you are…

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“Frequently, people report that when they come to a point of identifying as transgender rather than questioning, their dysphoria increases rather than decreases. This is not surprising because they have increased the gap between how they would like the world to be and how the world is. “

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lesbianprocessing

not that i still watch glee, but:

lesbianprocessing:

i heard a few weeks back that dot-marie jones’ character on glee, Coach Beiste, had recently been rewritten as a trans man for the show’s last season. after 4 years of playing a strong, tomboy-ish, very masculine cis woman who identified with womanhood and identified as straight, jones is now going to play a trans man (presumably gay) — which has also been a convenient excuse to write glee’s black trans girl character out of the show.

this development makes me really angry as a butch woman and as a feminist. Jones was quoted in People, saying: “I just didn’t want to let down the girls who are straight and tomboys that my character represented the last four seasons…But I got the script and I was, like, ‘Oh my God. This is amazing.’ ”

the problem is that this does let down girls and women who do not fit the stereotypical definition of womanhood or who don’t conform to the norm of compulsory femininity. coach beiste was an island of representation, especially for straight masc women who are frequently assumed to be gay because they don’t fit the boxes laid out for women. now that representation has been turned into something else, which has the potential to leave these girls and women confused about who they are and leaves them with no real media representation.

as a masculine woman, i often - so often - feel out of place, othered by my non-performance of femininity, by the ways i perform masculinity, and by what feel like my failures to ever achieve a masculine ideal. i share little with many feminine women with regard to social performance, but i cannot deny what i share with them in our identities, our attitudes, and often our experiences as well.

i have felt pressure to transition; i question my gender all the time and have felt a pull towards immersing myself in masculinity and coming out as a man if only to reduce my cognitive dissonance and others’ inability to put me in a box. i am made to feel like what i am cannot be what a woman is, even though i live as proof to the contrary.

when a person like coach beiste identifies as a woman, that helps to expand our definition of what women are, who they are, and from a feminist perspective helps to distance women from heteropatriarchal ideas of what they can and must be. same when someone like myself identifies as a woman.

part of why i think coach beiste’s coming out and transition are harmful is that glee is reneging on all of the mind-expanding work the character did as a straight masculine woman, who loved being a woman and loved being attracted to men. i know that many trans people do not come out or are not safe enough to come out until late in life, and that does not in any way invalidate their experiences. i know that many are resolutely and often self-destructively or defensively attached to their assigned genders at birth, and that this is a common cover-up for people who have yet to come to terms with their identities. but i think glee is doing this for ratings and PC brownie points, and in the process they are conveying that no matter what coach beiste said in the past about loving being a woman, that doesn’t make any sense and is forgotten in his coming out as trans; they make a mockery of coach beiste’s experience as a masc woman and stand to harm gender non-conforming women — and really all women — by tossing out beiste’s womanhood so cavalierly.

A great point worth remembering: not all “gender nonconforming” women are lesbians. I do watch Glee, and Coach Beiste’s transition was a letdown.

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