bitter-badfem-harpy

Anonymous asked:

if your kid turned out to be trans what would u do

bitter-badfem-harpy answered:

Well, seeing as she’s growing up with the understanding that gender doesn’t exist and her biological reality isn’t a feeling in some middle-aged man’s head, I don’t see that happening.

If she still suffers from sex dysphoria, then she will receive the mental health care she needs, and her parents will not enable her delusions.

gothicpoptart:

problematic-url:

“Gender doesn’t exist” oh my god

Well, yeah. Gender is a social construct. Unless you think a minutes-old baby boy knows he wants to punch things and crush beer cans on his forehead?

Lol or do you think fetuses hear the ultrasound technician say “it’s a girl!” and they start hopping around in utero saying “actually I identify as a transracial quadrigender sapiosexual teapotkin and you’re being transphobic”?

Or do you maybe think that a tiny baby who hasn’t yet figured out that you don’t stop existing when they close their eyes probably has no fucking clue what “gender identity” is and learns everything about who and what they are by watching the world around them?

And I would add: They also learn by what they are told, and if all the adults around them are saying that, indeed, their bodies are “wrong” and “don’t match” what’s in their heads, that will influence the child’s decision to medically transition later. Trans activists always say that puberty blockers, preferred prounons, and all the rest are “harmless” because only TRULY trans kids will choose transition after childhood, but this completely ignores how much kids are molded by their childhood experiences.

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President Obama, how is this not anti-gay "conversion therapy"? ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

“In a study of pre-pubertal male and female children with gender dysphoria followed-up approximately 10 years later, only 27 percent of children with gender dysphoria remained gender dysphoric at follow-up [10]. Of those individuals who no longer expressed gender dysphoria at follow-up, a significant portion (all female and half the male participants) expressed a non-heterosexual sexual orientation [9]. Thus, gender concerns in neurotypical children prior to puberty may represent a developmental process related to both gender and sexuality for many individuals. 

…Facilitating an exploration of sexuality seems especially pertinent given recent findings that most children with gender-related concerns eventually identify with their natal gender following puberty and frequently adopt homosexual or bisexual identities [19]. It is possible that individuals with ASD may experience similar trajectories in their gender narratives, but potentially follow a different timeline than normally developing individuals owing to reduced social interaction and fewer opportunities to explore their sexual identity.”

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While this article is specifically about autism and gender identity, it cites multiple research studies that confirm, once again, that MOST children who question their gender in childhood end up as gay or bisexual if left alone. Also, socially immature/isolated kids, or kids with ASD, probably need even longer to figure out who they are, which makes a good argument that dysphoric adolescents and even young adults with social anxiety or other similar issues should not start medical transition, as they too often do.

On April 8, 2015 the New York Times reported that President Obama has called for an “end to conversion therapy for gay and transgender youth.”

Somebody explain to me, please: If most children–especially girls–resolve gender dysphoria and grow up to be non-heterosexual adults (and study after study corroborates this finding), how is childhood “gender reassignment” not proactive conversion therapy to prevent adult homosexuality? 

Given these findings, why do doctors, psychologists–and increasingly, compliant parents–assign gender non-conforming children as trans until proven otherwise?

And can it even be “proven otherwise” if they spend their entire childhoods  being told, and treated as if, they are actually the opposite sex?

Your thoughts, President Obama?

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Thought I was trans for for 12 years... • /r/TwoXChromosomes np.reddit.com

roslynholcomb:

roslynholcomb:

4thwavenow:

roslynholcomb:

4thwavenow:

Of course, life is easier for males - there’s no getting around that. Being a woman is like playing on “hard” mode. It sometimes sucks. But it doesn’t have to suck to the point of constantly (emphasis on constantly) wishing you were born otherwise.

Tomboys, unite.

I read these notes especially the kids talking about their parents and it sounds like something out of another century. It’s incredible to me that with all these fabulous female athletes around that parents are still telling their kids that being a female jock is “masculine.” Or that no guy will like them. It’s crazy because I remember my sister being a phenomenal athlete back in the 70s and it was no big deal. The softball team she was on was even called The Tomboys. Yeah, we had to wear froufrou dresses, but that was only for Easter or Christmas. The rest of the time we wore what all the kids wore; jeans and t-shirts. My niece who grew up in the 80s was a terrific athlete as well. Played on the boy’s basketball team, and no one made a thing of it except that she was small and everyone was afraid she’d get hurt. 

So what in the holy hell has happened in the past few decades that we now have folk talking like it’s the 1950s again? (Not even the fifties because my aunt was a “yardman” back then because the pay was better than being a maid and she preferred to be outside, and no one called her a man, though she wore overalls every day and was a butch lesbian.) Is this some kind of backlash against feminism? Because it’s depressing as all hell to read these posts where a girl thinks because she likes science and jeans that she’s somehow not a girl. People have personalities. I didn’t like dolls either. My mama loved them, but never said we had to be boys because we didn’t. Something has gone terribly awry here and it’s just sad to read about.  

Every day I wonder how we went so far backwards in terms of women’s liberation. If you’d told me in 1985 that this is where things would be 30 years later, I wouldn’t have believed it.

The scary thing is, it happened to quickly. While women were being distracted by all manner of fuckery our daughters have been left to fend for themselves. And yeah, here there be dragons. 

I guess it’s sort of like “hipster racism.” We had a generation of parents who believed that being “colorblind” was the way to deal with racism. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. You have to openly address differences and explain to your children why treating people differently because of them is wrong. If parents simply accepted their sons who want to wear nail polish and daughters who want to play baseball as they are there would be no “dysphoria,” because it seems in all these cases thus far the so-called gender norms are being policed by their own parents. 

When my son was about a year and a half old he asked for a baby doll we saw in the discount bin at a big box store. It only cost $5 so I got it for him. He loved that doll and though I thought his dad might have problems with it, he was like “how else is he going to learn how to be a dad?” And that was that. He also had a tea set and loved to have tea parties. He played sports and other people often comment that he’s “all boy,” (yeah, that’s annoying) yet he can sing all the songs from Frozen and berated me for calling it a “girl movie,” (I know, bad feminists, but dammit I can only listen to those damned songs for so long.) 

In other words, it would seem to me that maybe dysphoria, at least in these very young kids could be very much an issue with parents and parenting. It’s typical at these ages to rebel and reject parental norms. If parents are very focused on gender norms, it may well be possible that dysphoria is informed by that. Sounds to me that if these posts are valid, rather than treating the kids with drugs and surgery, we might want to do some type of treatment with the parents instead. 

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Ethical issues raised by the treatment of gender-variant prepubescent children. - PubMed - NCBI ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

“…gender dysphoria in childhood does not inevitably continue into adulthood, and only 6 to 23 percent of boys and 12 to 27 percent of girls treated in gender clinics showed persistence of their gender dysphoria into adulthood.”

Cognitive-professional dissonance: So tell me again WHY little kids are being put on puberty blockers and called by their “preferred pronouns”? Trans until proven otherwise, despite the odds?

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She was TWO when she said she wanted to be called John because she LOVED PETER PAN

radically-thinking:

shadycatz:

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iamatinyowl:

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tiaraloveskandlupita:

(x)

“I think she (Shiloh) is fascinating, the choices she is making. And I would never be the kind of parent to force somebody to be something they are not. I think that is just bad parenting… Children should be allowed to express themselves in whatever way they wish without anybody judging them because it is an important part of their growth. Society always has something to learn when it comes to the way we judge each other, label each other. We have far to go.” (x)


Shiloh, we feel, has Montenegro style,” she said. “It’s how people dress there.She likes tracksuits, she likes [regular] suits. She likes to dress like a boy.She wants to be a boy. So we had to cut her hair. She likes to wear boys’ everything. She thinks she’s one of the brothers.” (x)

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#STOPMISGENDERINGSHILOHJOLIEPITT2K15

"She wants to be a boy” she is literally misgendering her child that has made it clear that they “want” to be a boy.

Okay, I totally see your point but like….. it’s a lot of work to eradicate problematic language from your life. Everyone slips up. Everyone fucks up. It takes constant effort. She might not be as educated on transphobic language or the importance of language, or even transphobia politically. I think her attitude is amazing and supportive and loving and she is still new to this. I think she will learn as she goes. Nobody is perfect and it’s her first experience with having a trans child and you can really tell that she is trying. I’m sure once Shiloh says she wants to be called ‘he’ Angelina will make effort to change her pronoun use, but for all we know Shiloh may not have gender dysmorphia and is perfectly fine with being referred to as ‘she’.

Listen, I’m tired of this. Shiloh is just gender non-conforming. She just doesn’t like the gender that has been forcefully imposed on her, as it is instilled by force on every girl from birth. She does not conform to this gender hierarchy, which isn’t a spectrum, it’s a hierarchy of oppression, you know it, we all know it. That doesn’t make her trans at all. It doesn’t make anyone trans. Just gender non-conforming, just being themselves, and it’s totally okay. For everyone’s sake, now a girl cannot like to play football, wear short-hair, suits without being a boy? What the hell is wrong with you people? You are just recycling gender again. This is harming the youth. This is harming you and everyone around you and, deep down all your nice messages and politically correct language, hides a very important piece of the gender hierarchy which puts men on top and women down, and you’re just reinforcing that. Please, stop. Stop this. Of course if everyone she sees like her are boys, she will maybe think she’s wrong and she’s a boy, don’t you see it?

You disgusting, delusional freaks need to shut the fuck up. She was TWO when she said she wanted to be called John because she LOVED PETER PAN.

YOU’RE USING A LITTLE GIRL TO FULFILL YOUR AGENDA YOU PIECES OF SHIT.

YOU THINK THAT A GIRL MUST BE A BOY ON THE INSIDE IF SHE ISN’T FEMININE. YOU’RE NOT BREAKING GENDER ROLES, YOU’RE REINFORCING THEM.

when i was a child i used to pretend i was a boy and got everyone to call me Pyro (from the x men), my sister got everyone to call her Martin instead of her real name. it wasn’t because we actually wanted to be boys, but because we grew up doing things that were typically considered boy things. we used to get teased a lot for not wearing dresses, or like pink, and for playing sports and being quite rough. we were told we were like boys and were called ‘tomboys’. stop saying that girls who are gender non-conforming must want to be boys, let them be children, and let them be little girls who enjoy things without being told they must actually be male. if you had’ve told me when i was a child that i was a boy i would have been very angry with you, it happened to me a lot and luckily i grew up with the mindset that i can do whatever boys do, and still be a girl

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Number of Tumblr blogs tagged #gender critical parenting:

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Number of Tumblr blogs tagged #trans parenting:

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Number of Tumblr blogs tagged #trans parenting that are even mildly critical of the dominant trans paradigm:

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Might have negative health effects, but so what?

A typical Tumblr post under the tag #trans parenting

it makes me so fucking angry when i see people like my friends with parents completely unsupportive of them being trans. i honestly don’t think parents should be trusted to make those kinds of decisions and they shouldn’t be allowed to have control. most parents deal with trans children in the worst ways possible and it’s sickening.

it might have negative health effects but i will totally advocate for other people self medicating when their parents aren’t accepting. at the point where nothing can be done to convince parents, you have to take things into your own hands. especially when dysphoria is too much to live with

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It might have negative health effects, but who cares?

*Note: I deliberately do not link directly to blogs with comments like these because I don’t want to drive traffic there AND I am not trying to start a personal catfight with anyone. My goal is to raise awareness. The posts are easily found via a Tumblr search.

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